Your plan is set. You've considered all of the possible outcomes, made a list, scheduled the milestones, created contingencies, created contingencies for your contingency plan — all of this, only to discover that this entire time, you overlooked one small detail — your entire plan is shot!
What is your experience when this happens? Are you angry? Sad? Miserable? Ambivalent? Do you get anxious? Does life spiral out of control? Perhaps you're relieved, even excited?
Over the past year, I've dealt with the topic of control quite a bit. My world — and I'll dive into this in future posts — has played out vastly different than my initial life plan. It really wasn't until today that the misconception of control truly clicked with me. Control is a delusion. We hope for it — I think because we believe it provides safety — but we're misguided. In reality, the concept of control prevents us from experiencing who we really are. The very essence of the word is limiting. I believe all we can ever really do, is influence an outcome — either through our actions or inaction. There's simply too much at play in the universe to realistically think we can predict everything accurately.
The journey of life — it's been written about countless times and in numerous ways —
Let your mind start a journey thru a strange new world. Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before. Let your soul take you where you long to be...Close your eyes let your spirit start to soar, and you'll live as you've never lived before." — Erich Fromm
In preparing this post, I stumbled upon an author's post, The Journey vs. Destination Conundrum, as it relates to project management. Interesting thoughts and I like that it touches on the notion of attachment in the business world. Give it a look.
What's my point? Well, in my quest to rewrite my "plan" and step outside my comfort zone, I'm opening up to you and letting go of my attachment of how things should be (or should have been). I've referenced a TED talk given by Brené Brown about vulnerability — viewed over 6 million times at this point — and I invite you to watch (or re-watch) her 20-minute presentation. This is such a powerful context to operate from, and one I need constant reminding of.
I've reached a checkpoint on my journey, and as I approach the next one, will you please join me? Let go of the control, share your thoughts and spread your seeds of influence. What is interesting to you? What do you want?